Monday, June 8, 2015

Husbands



   I have been thinking a lot lately about husbands and the people they are to their wives. I'm especially grateful for my husband and all of his hard work to make me happy. He is going into a difficult field of work as a police officer, but I know that he will make an effort everyday for our relationship because that is just who he is.
  The more I've thought about husbands, the more I think that they aren't given the appropriate credit they deserve. The world today has totally turned husbands into lazy, sit-on-the-couch men that are just looking to drink a six pack with their guy crew while watching the game to avoid their crazy and controlling wives. That they hide in the garage or shed to avoid their children, they make a mess anytime they come into the house, and dinner is never ready on time.
  While some husbands really do those things, most husbands do not.
  I think we as women expect things from our husbands that are, quite frankly, a little ridiculous. We are emotional, sensitive, and fragile sometimes and we expect our husbands, who are completely different people inside and out, who are not emotional or fragile, to just read our minds on how they should react or fix it for us. Then we get upset with them when they don't react the way we would like them to.
  It's sad to me how many women complain about their husbands with each other about this and that. They don't bother to brag about all of their accomplishments or the great things they do and say. They don't bother to thank them for their hard work to provide for them everyday without complaint.
  To me, husbands are quite amazing. I haven't been married that long and I am far from being an expert on marriage, but what I do know is that even though my husband may not give me the emotional attention I need or want sometimes, he does try in his own little way. He tries to make sure I am happy. It may not be the way I would do it, but at least he's trying. He's not a lazy, sit-on-the-couch husband that is just looking for a way to avoid me. He genuinely wants to help me and make life easier for me. He loves me.
  When I step out of my frustration box and look at all of the things he does do for me, even if they are different from the way I would like, I am in awe at the wonderful man that I get frustrated with so easily sometimes. No he's not perfect, neither am I. We think differently, do things differently, and need different things from each other, but I think the most important thing is that both of us are actively trying and being patient with each other.
  Husbands deserve much better than the cruel stereotype they seem to be given now a days. It actually makes me very sad.
  So wives, let's be patient with our husbands and let's work together to help each other with the different challenges that will come up. We are all different and that's what makes us so special together.

2 comments:

  1. What a beautiful tribute to your hubby.

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  2. Thanks Aunt Becki! I've been wanting to write about this for awhile now and I'm glad I finally got around to it!

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